Dear lady manners: I am part of a group of six university friends 50 years ago. We keep in touch by sending text messages often and gathering in person every few years.
We are extended geographical, but a friend and I are only a few separate miles and we have always seen each other more frequently.
I had to go through the house of this friend to collect something, and I sent her a text message at her expected arrival time. In response, I recovered what I would describe as a cross -text statement, a declaration of petty and little flattering spirit on my husband and me. (All in the group also know my school husband). The friend criticized our life choices, belittling us.
My husband and I were in the car when I read it out loud. I was angry, and was hurt, without knowing that she felt like that. I stayed wondering who the text really was. The idea that it was possible for the rest of this group of friends to break my heart.
I stop all contact with her.
The group is now planning our next meeting in person, and I don’t know how to answer, since I don’t feel that I can be close to it. I don’t know if the group also received the text.
What is the best way to handle this? The group has been a special part of all our lives on these years, but now I feel walked.
Soft reader: Our devices change much faster than the human condition, which means that the label can generally adapt relatively easily.
Your friend thought, wrote and got Caht to write something unpleasant about you. Although it is completely unpleasant for you, it is not the first time in human history that such a thing has happened; In fact, that is why the apology was invented.
He does not mention what happened when he broke the contact. The senders are not always aware that they have sent what you call cross texts, an important point.
Miss Manners would make him send a text message at the time you didn’t think this text would me to me. Then an apology should be received, after which he could have decided if he could rescue 50 years of friendship.
If there is still the possibility that his friend is unaware of what happened, he could trust one of the other members of the group, when he rejects the following exit, that a hurtful text was sent, without sharing details, with the hope that the outside of what Condt condt condt condsat.
Dear lady manners: Either because of my age or the illusion that I have my life together, they often ask me for advice on the decisions of life, as if a friend should buy a car, a house or whatever.
The problem is that to answer the question intelligently, I need to ask questions that are not normally from my business, such as, “what is your income? Does your credit rating? Are you thinking of having a child? How is your current work going?”
Is there an educated but direct way to ask for thesis without unnecessarily cheesy?
Soft reader: “Is this a casual question, or is you asking for a really deep analysis (which are perfect to do)?”
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