Dear Harriette: I recently used vacation in Spain for a week with friends I have known for 20 years.
It all started well; We had a great time exploring, remembering and enjoying the company of the other.
As the days were used, the tensions began to increase, and we found Aurselves discussing things that had made us a bone for years but had never approached the bone.
Small discomfort became great fights, and at the end of the trip, we were all more frustrated with the other than anything else.
Now that some time has passed, I have had the opportunity to reflect and, honestly, the arguments seem small. I do not want to live on the thesis friends about things that were said in the heat of the moment, but I am not sure how to advance.
What is the best way to repair friendships after a burst like this?
– Fallout
Dear Fallout: Be the first to get to someone in the group or the group of the group and that it was unfortunate that everyone began to discuss, but in retrospect, you value friendships rather than what happened to make things dedicate.
Ask them if everyone can meet and start over. There is no need to repeat what happened unless some feel strongly about it. See if you can advance.
Dear Harriette: I have a nearby friend who is always optimistic, girl and full of energy, that’s why she surprised me when she recently confirmed that she has been fighting her mental health.
She did not go into too many details, but I realized that it is a leg that weighs on it for a while.
I want to be a good friend and sacrifice support support, but I’m not sure the best way to do it.
I do not want to overcome or make it feel uncomfortable, but I don’t want to feel that it has to go through this alone.
How can I be there for her in a way that is useful and support without being intrusive? Should I encourage her to seek professional help, or is it better to listen and let her open in her own terms?
I worry about her and I don’t want to say wrong or make her feel worse. At the same time, I am worried that if I do not record enough, she might feel that anyone realizes or cares.
– broken
Dear Speó: Your friend clearly trusts you, or would not have shared her secret.
For all the bad, keep in close contact with her. Yes, you can listen, but you are not a therapist. Be sure to inform you that you have learned that the best way to get help when you need it is to go to a professional. You can find a therapist who listens to her and support her while unpacking what is happening in her life.
Remember that there is no shame to seek help when you need it. This is especially true when it has been presented in a way that will lead others to believe that you have no problems. That can be isolating.
Encourage your friend to get help. It can be completely confidential and that’s fine, it is so.
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