Dear Abby: My dad is a registered sexual offender who has made time for his crimes against children. My mother has continued to have contact with him and has repeatedly chosen it on her own children. She does not respect our desires, and we believe that she gives her information about our lives and our images.
With a child on the way, I cannot continue the same level of contact with her because of this. I am not willing to have my son at home because he has dad often there. I am also not willing to take pictures of my son because I think he would share them with Dad. I won to leave her alone with my little one because I think I had immediately established a meeting so that my father of the sexual offender had contact with my son.
How should I manage adjustment thesis limits? What do I do if other members of my family blame me for dividing our family? – Mama Bear in Ohio
Dear mom: You are the mother (bear), and you can establish the rules when it comes to who has access to your child. Because he cannot trust that his mother does not ignore the limits he is establishing, he will have to restrict his access to his grandson. If this causes problems with other family members, so it is. He doesn’t have to apologize to anyone for doing his job. It is assumed that sexual criminals should be kept away from younger children after having fulfilled their time. If they do not do that, they should be reported to the police.
Dear Abby: Is there ever a way of giving unre requested advice that can be appreciated? A co -worker with whom I have become a friend spent the weekend at the hospital with high blood pressure outside the cars. She went to the clinic for a headache last Friday, and sent her to the emergency room. I am very worried that I will have a stroke.
She is in an unhappy marriage with a man who is bad. When they fight, which is often, she retires and goes out to eat to avoid it and feel better. He has also begun to drink every night (his children on how much he came) and has had a lot of weight. When he talks about being healthy, we plan to walk or go to the yoga at lunch.
What I really want to do is: “Have you thought about marriage advice?” Because their relationship stress could be less, other things could be easier. She has an order for my advice. Should I give it anyway? – Take care of my business
Dear Minding: Pootoly, yes. However, before doing that, tell your co -worker that you need to have a serious conversation with your doctor about your blood pressure problem. There are medications for this, as well as certain dietary restrictions. After she has done that, and her blood pressure stabilizes, it would be time to suggest that she takes care of a Mariard and family therapist about how to improve her relationship with her husband.
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