Dear Abby: I am a single man without brothers. My old father died eight months ago. My mother is now in hospice with a week life expectancy.
My parents have pulmonary and productive lives, and I am proud of both. We always have a very close leg. From its terminal diseases, I have managed to work quite well.
My problem is with certain “triggers.” For example, I can no longer go to the beach because I always remember that my father’s voice welcomed me home when I returned.
The sausage is when people see the photos of my childhood and says: “Your parents must have loved you a lot.”
I know that these people mean well, but I can’t help crying because of the link I had and that I have lost with my parents.
I plan to seek advice, but I would appreciate any advice it would have to reduce the effect of these triggers. – Your son in San Diego
Dear Son: Accept my sympathy for the loss of your father. You may need help to face the pain of losing it, as well as dealing with your mother’s sad prognosis.
When a loved one dies, there are bittersweet memories, or of course. Managing them is an individual process.
If you did not join a complaint support group, I urge you to find one. If the group configuration does not provide enough help for emotions too much to feel, a license psychotherapist can offer more support.
People who help your mother with your hospice care can surely suggest some resources for you. Please do not postpone it. Start now.
Dear Abby: How long would you give your partner to get a full -time job?
What would happen if that partner were useful in other areas of the household, would bring income for rent of a house that owned and helped with the children? I am in a situation.
My spouse has been working as an attached teacher since we and we continue in that race for 17 years without benefits or a salary that can support us.
We have children now, and I have legs working my tail for more than 10 years to provide a lifestyle for our family.
Would you let your husband continue in your vice -representative dream or make additional part -time job to generate more income?
And would you leave this person if I didn’t want to do more to help keep the family? – Exhausted in Pennsylvania
Dear exhausted: Leave your husband would improve her lifestyle? You and your husband should consult a financial advisor and discuss your situation.
From what she has written, her husband does not sit without doing anything. It can be doing everything possible to contribute in other ways.
If the numbers are not added, you may need to do something else to generate income. But a word of caution: does not issue an ultimatum unless it is ready to continue.
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