Dear Abby: At 63, I am the young sister of four brothers. We grew up in the agitation of alcoholism and the hoarding of Dad, as well as the physical and emotional abuse of both parents.
One of my sisters, “June”, was assaulted sexual by my brother. He is now 71 years old and has not worked since he was just over 30 years old. She relies on Social Security and a pension from her ex -husband.
Her ex -husband recently died and the pension stopped. Now he hopes that my sister and I pay their careers because “too old to work more.”
Abby, June is perfect capable or getting part -time work. She refuses to request anything despite my account, I will pay her rent for only two more months. My other sister, “Lisa”, is happening to me by saying “we don’t want to see her on the street.”
I am about to retire after working 48 years. I worked two jobs up to 52 years. I am extremely angry at the situation.
Although I can pay it, I do not think it should be my responsibility because June won to make any effort to help herself. Advice? – Brother drama in New York
Dear Drama Brother: Schedule a family discussion for you and your two sisters.
At that time, tell them that you are willing to help June and, if you get part -time job, you would be willing to pay part Or run if Lisa will divide the cost with you.
Do this only if both sisters are willing to turn it into a joint effort.
Dear Abby: My husband and I always organize every vacation. Duration on each holiday before eating, we say a Catholic prayer for food because we are religious.
However, recently, my husband’s nephews and nephews, who are just over 20 years old, stopped participating in prayer. I agree with that, but they speak and make fun of our prayer while we pray.
How can we handle this? Our children noticed how inappropriate they were. I understand that if they don’t want to participate, but shouldn’t they sit in silence and respect us?
I am against them entering our house, mocking our religion and then taking out their hand for a gift. Thanks for any word of wisdom. – Faithful host in Pennsylvania
Dear host: Wow. The nephews and nephews of her husband beyond the rude. If you don’t want to join you in the prior prayer for food, they absolutely It must be respectful and sit in silence until it is over.
When it happens again, the first words outside her husband’s mouth after “Amen” should be Say They what they are doing is rude and not appreciated.
However, if you can’t do that, the ball will be on your court.
Dear Readers: At sunset, the first Easter night begins. This important Jewish party celebrates the most transcendental event in Jewish history: the liberation of the Jewish people from slavery in Egypt. Happy Easter to my readers who observe these important vacations. – Love, Abby
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