Dear lady manners: I have always fought to get along with my mother -in -law.
We are very different in tastes and temperament. I have tried to be educated and cozy, encourage family ties and find some way of making it happy, but nothing I have done has done well.
She is quite frank in her negative opinions, so time with her is a series of insults, all for the purpose of educating and improving, or of course. It seems that I am ridiculously hypersensitive for having injured feelings.
After decades of trying to get along, now I do everything possible to avoid it, which makes it much more angry and aggressive.
I don’t say what she tells her friends about me, I thought she was told. My own friends and family know me, and they are not impressed to continue.
But moving, we have a new wrinkle that bothers me greatly: he has his leg expression his dismay that he could not choose his son’s wife, so he has to endure me.
This comment is made to acquaintances, other family events of the in -laws, my husband’s co -workers when they have stopped for commercial reasons … In short, people who do not know us well who would prefer not to think about thinking about thinking.
Honestly, all contact would end if it were just for me, but my husband loves his mother and I also have to respect his feelings.
What would be an appropriate way to finish these comments, or at least to administer the side eye and the gossip they cause?
Soft reader: Defecting this is the simplicity in itself, since you can trust three clichés that are so exhausted, nobody is a target if they are simply true: that mothers are hateful; That the elderly are seniles; And that married couples who say they are happy, are.
The next time some tell you that your mother -in -law has said that she could have chosen her son’s wife, smile and say that you have heard her say that before and that you and your husband are so tremendous that she did not depend on her.
Or of course, if your husband is inside Earhot, you may want to amend it to eliminate your name. Otherwise, he may feel that he is helping his mother throw a reciprocal insult.
Dear lady manners: My husband and I occasionally socialize with a couple that we know through a charitable organization.
In recent events, the husband has made me a comment in the sense of “surely it didn’t take you a long time to get a beer.” Everything while he is drinking a bear.
I can guess what the involvement is, and this point I am already reluctant to be close to this couple.
What is your opinion about this? Am I being too sensitive?
Soft reader: Being too sensitive is the accusation that is made to defend insulting behavior, as if calling humor doing so. Miss Manners agrees with you that the husband must enjoy his beer without his company.
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