Dear Abby: My mother -in -law lives with us, and she and my husband are very good friends.
They are a lot of the same. They are outgoing and are Huggers and talk a lot. I feel like a third wheel most of the time, but I occupy reading elsewhere in the house or leaving.
Everything seems to go quite well, except that before bedtime, they hug and give a quick kiss on the lips. I find it disgusting.
I have told my husband how I feel it, and he says: “It’s my mother.” I say: “I never hugged my dad, much less kissed him on the lips.”
I think I’m tired of living with us. Do you think it is normal to kiss?
– I put in Oregon
Dear put: If I think it is appropriate that her husband’s mother kisses her mouth is irrelevant. I suppose this is something he has done since he was a child and, therefore, is normal for issue.
Your relationship with your father has nothing to do with that.
There is Something is wrong if you feel like a third wheel most of the time. It is not healthy, and will continue until you have a sincere talk with your husband about it.
Dear Abby: My Godchilden and I was always very close. They literally consider me their second mother.
Until now, we were blessed with great communication.
The elder always sent me a warm greeting of Mother’s Day and called me often. About a year ago, he began to ignore all my Oberturas.
His younger sister, who is also cultivated with children, commented that it was strange, said he thought it was terrible, but now no longer returns telephone calls. From time to time, he will send a love text message, but she says she is busy.
My Godon, whom I am closer, has no problems like this. When I ask him if he thinks that something is wrong with my girls or if his feelings towards me have changed, he says they are probable.
When I ask the youngest if something is wrong, she always says: “No, I love you, mom! I’ve been busy.” But she no longer starts contact. The older girl now ignores me completely.
I don’t know what to do. My adult Godchilden is like mine. Please help.
– Sad godmother in Florida
Dear godmother: You are taking silence as rejection, which is a mistake.
Your Godchilden are no longer children. They are adults with an adult response, including children, spouses and races that fill their time.
Your Godon and his youngest girlfriend have told you why they are not in contact so often as they used to be. It’s time to go back.
Fill your time with other activities, such as activities that you enjoy, time with contemporaries and volume of your free time for causes that you feel are horm.
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